Pushing back on your boss

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Giving feedback to your boss is hard enough, but pushing back without causing friction is a whole other thing. Here's how to do it respectfully, using the DiSC styles as your guide.

Pushing Back on a D (Dominant) Style Boss

It’s tough because they move fast and prioritize results, so slowing them down or impeding their control might look like weakness or resistance, so:

• Be brief and direct.

• Show how your input supports better outcomes.

• Offer trade-offs, not roadblocks.

Framing

• “We can do that—but there’s a risk I want to flag.”

• “Quick gut check—do we want speed or precision here?”

• “That could work, but I think there’s a cleaner way if we pause for 5 minutes.”

Pushing Back on an i (Influence) Style Boss

It can be challenging because they thrive on positivity and enthusiasm, so pushback can feel like you’re raining on their parade, so:

• Mirror their energy.

• Frame your input as an enhancement, not a rejection.

• Emphasize collaboration and impact on people.

Framing

• “I love your energy—mind if I play devil’s advocate for a second?”

• “This could really shine…if we fine-tune just a bit.”

• “I’m in—can I share one curveball first?”

Pushing Back on an S Style (Steady)

Not so easy because they avoid conflict and have a need for harmony. Too much directness may shut them down, so:

• Be calm and compassionate.

• Focus on team impact and shared understanding.

• Use inviting, non-threatening language.

Framing

• “I have a quick concern—can we talk it through?”

• “Would you be open to a slightly different option?”

• “Let’s make sure we’re bringing everyone with us.”

Pushing Back on a C Style (Conscientious)

It’s difficult because they value precision and logic. Emotional or vague pushback can feel ungrounded, so:

• Use facts, data, and logical reasoning.

• Respect their process.

• Keep a calm, composed tone.

Framing

• “I ran the numbers—there may be a more accurate option.”

• “There’s a process gap I think we should close first.”

• “To keep our standards high, let’s double-check this step.”

Respectful, well-received pushback isn’t one-size-fits-all. The key is knowing who you're speaking to—and adapting your approach.

Pushback doesn't have to be pushy. Match your message to their mindset.

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