How do you help someone to gain perspective on themselves?

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Reactions often come from what’s happening outside us. Presence comes from intention, agency, and consciousness. The challenge: you can’t force consciousness on anyone.

What you can do is ask good questions. The Socratic method—done with curiosity and care—helps people see themselves more clearly. Knowing how someone thinks gives you a head start, and DiSC can be a useful guide.

D Style – Dominance

Automatic Thoughts: Let’s move faster / I need control / Results matter more than feelings / Respect beats being liked.

Coaching Questions:

• What might you miss by moving too quickly?

• How do others experience your need for everything to be under control?

• What impact does your style have on team morale?

• Who could support you more, if you let them?

• What would it look like to lead with strength and vulnerability?

i Style – Influence

Automatic Thoughts: People should like me / Keep it fun / If they’re bored, it’s my fault / Too much structure feels stifling

Coaching Questions:

• What helps you balance positivity with authenticity?

• When do you avoid discomfort or conflict?

• How can you create clarity without losing momentum?

• Whose feedback might deepen your impact?

• What passion could help guide your focus?

S Style – Steadiness

Automatic Thoughts: Keep the peace / Don’t rock the boat / If I go along, I’ll stay safe and liked / I don’t want to disappoint anyone

Coaching Questions:

• What’s something important you haven’t voiced?

• How do you handle it when your needs differ?

• Where might harmony be getting in the way?

• What would being more assertive look like?

• Who can help you practice speaking up safely?

C Style – Conscientiousness

Automatic Thoughts: I must maintain credibility / Mistakes mean incompetence / I need more info before deciding / Logic is safest

Coaching Questions:

• What’s the cost of waiting for certainty?

• How do you define success—beyond being right?

• Where might emotional intelligence help you connect?

• What would trusting others look like in your role?

• How can you stretch your comfort zone without losing quality?

Important: Don’t use DiSC to put someone in a box. People are always more than their style. Use it as a lens, not a label.

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