Harmony, disharmony, repair

Harmony feels great.

Disharmony feels awful.

Repair is where you heal.

If you refuse to repair, the relationship doesn’t just freeze — it rots.

Your health rots.

Resentment goes up.

Anger.

Frustration.

It all stays inside you. Gross. Sickening.

And the resentment you’re “managing”? It doesn’t just stay at work. It seeps into your nervous system, wrecks your health, and drains your energy.

So what do you do about it?

Should you hope the other person miraculously sees your perspective and says “I’m wrong?”

Good luck with that.

It’s up to you.

Harmony, disharmony, repair.

If you don’t move into repair, you’re by definition in an unhealthy relationship.

Unhealthy to you.

It’s hard to go first.

It’s harder to live in disharmony.

Here are a few suggestions to start:

• "I feel like things have been a little off between us. I want to fix it if you’re open."

• "I’d rather check in now than keep making up stories in my head. Can we talk?"

• "I realize I haven’t been showing up the way I want to with you. Can we reset?"

No blame. Just five seconds of guts.

Harmony isn’t the absence of conflict. It’s the willingness to heal it.

Go first. You’ll be stronger for it.